Open Question: Maid of Honor Needs Advice Please?Long!?
Hi There. My Best Friend has asked me to be her maid of honor in her June Wedding. I have a ton of issues with everything and even though it is not about me I said yes because I love her and we have been dreaming of this for years (her perfect day) Issues are as follows please feel free to answer to any or all. advice is GREATLY appreciated. Issue One: I do NOT like the Groom….my reason is…I have only met him once and he didn’t even look me in the eye. he has been engaged twice and just broke off his last engagement because he fell in love with my bestie…She use to NOT like him and he knew her last bf and the straw that broke in her last relationship was because her last bf started drinking. for fun but she HATES alcohol. guess who started his fun Habit? her NOW Fiance! I had to hear all these horror stories about him but now (good lord love is blind) and now he is great and changed and blah blah blah….How do I except this guy? Issue two: I am 2600 miles away! Yes I moved to AK from OR about 9 months ago for my husbands Job so I am trying to help and learn to like this guy from this far away. and I gently asked my bf is she was SURE she wanted me as MOH because I could not do as much from far away…she told me I would be a better MOH here than ANYBODY would make back home. (she is a good girl) this also ties in to me not liking this guy. it is not like I get to know him. How do I deal with issues from so far away while being truthful but letting her know I have to pass the torch to someone else? (ex. her mom, another b.m. etc…) Issue 3: It is all happening WAY too fast! they have been together since…May? early June? so they have been together for 6 months! he was just engaged! she is supposed to grad Nursing School in June and he wants to be married so bad (her words not mine) that they are getting married the 26 of June. it would have been sooner if I hadn’t told her my Hubby’s Parents are coming up for two weeks at the end of may! how do I tell her that she has expected me to be accepting WAY to Fast? Lastly as of Last night my feelings got WAY hurt when I was trying to tell her that I would not be able to come to a bridal shower for her because etiquette states the shower should be at least 8 weeks before the wedding and I will not get down until two weeks before but that I AM going to throw her and AWESOME Bachelor-ette Party/Second Shower and she INFORMED me that he doesn’t have many friends so she was thinking it should be a couples guys and gals sort of thing…WTF? this was the ONE thing I could do for HER with all our girlfriends and Ididn’tt know what to say so I just said I would figure it out….And Icouldn’tt even talk to her for 30 minutes because he was hungry andticklingg her and asking when they could go to dinner so shecouldn’tt talk…really hurt my feelings this is all going to cost me a bundle….ticket,dress, blah blah blah…How do I tell her she CRUSHED my feelings? is it too late? Can I back out of a double shower? if hedoesn’tt have many friends what am I supposed to do? Ugh…to top it off she is 23 and he 26 and they are not mature enough to tell the parents. she told her mom and her mom had to tell her dad…I wanted to scream If you have the love to marry him you should have the GUTS to tell your fam!!!! but alas…I did not. Thanks everybody…Hope I didn’t ramble too terribly much….